Why would a person email you other’s gossip about you?
13 comments so farWhat purpose does it serve to email someone with a list of negative attacks and sad attempts at psychoanalysis that others have made about him or her? What does it mean when the person emailing this blocks you from emailing them back? Do they simply seek to insult? Are they cowardly? Bored? Or are they simply proud that they have snobby friends and want to brag about this?
EDIT: How should we know? Why, that’s never stopped you before. Why do I have to play by rules that you don’t follow?
Yes, snobby. I only bring up the Mensa thing (or my degree) after being repeatedly called uneducated and unintelligent. It does get dull occasionally, having you following me around trying to make me sound like an idiot. Funny, that’s what the gossip was about, too….. how I must be really dumb, since I don’t agree with everyone else’s ideologies. Perhaps my self-defense is warranted.
But come on, answer the question. 
Why would a person who calls herself a “feminist” not only try go out of her way to attack another woman, but let her friends look like catty you-know-whats? Doesn’t that add fuel to the perceptions that all women already struggle against?
EDIT: I choose not to post it because I don’t want to embarras the other ladies. Did you ask them before emailing me? Oh, and do answer the question, if you would be so kind. What does this person hope to gain by sending me this gossip and then blocking me from emailing back? You’re in a unique position to answer - something I didn’t say earlier to give you a chance to knock it off.
EDIT: Charming. The question stands. What do you hope to gain? You’re the one emailing and then blocking… Stalk, much?
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The first thing I would do had I got an email like that? click on it and click delete.
Gee, I don’t know why Christa would do that.
Wait a minute- yes I do! The answer is some combination of all the factors you listed.
(Please correct me if I named the wrong poster- I’m pretty sure that I’m right.)
Multiple choice test.
Question 1.
Why would a person email you other’s gossip about you?
a) To insult.
b) Are cowardly.
c) Bored.
d) Need to brag.
f) All of the above.
Answer: f) all of the above.
Score: 100%. A++
WOOOT I PASSED TEH T3ST!
EDIT
”I’m not sure… not related to women’s studies… ”
Just like someone did singling a user out and calling him a hypocrite and then re-doing it with a different user and calling him/her a misogynist ****. Yep, that stuff is not related to Women’s Studies. Another person who starred this question did the same thing months ago. Some Portugese girl also did it yet you remained silent. Can you say ‘hypocrite’?
In one of Kohlberg’s stages of moral development, the truth is not only always correct, but should always be told fully and bluntly to all concerned. If this person is a teenager, and this seems like a teenage thing to do, it appears they are experiencing an internal conflict between a childlike phase where you tell everyone everything and a more adult phase where you don’t tell harmful things to another person unless there’s a goo reason.
I think they blocked you because they were afraid of a confrontation with you about the information and what their friends said.
They may have wanted you to know what was being said and later got scared of your response or she could just be a *****.
How should we know? We don’t know the circumstances; haven’t read the text… in short, your ‘question’ is in no context whatsover.
It sounds to me like you are hoping to some “psychoanalyzing” - yourself!
Perhaps you will have better luck if you post this same (personal) question in the “Psychology” section. There are likely to be more people there familiar with psychoanalysis (which is Freud’s baby).
“Snobby” ??? You don’t miss an opportunity to incorporate “Mensa” into the text you post. You mean to suggest this ain’t ’snobby’?
EDIT:
Why don’t you just post what I sent to you? It’s conspicuous by it’s absence; you are well aware that ‘ideology’ had nothing to do with anything. If it were really as awful as you are making out I would have no doubt you would ‘publish’ it immediately.
As for the rest of it: stop projecting onto me. Here is the proof that that is PRECISELY what you are doing. Yesterday we both answered a question posted by Waswisgirl. I posted before you:
YOU:” LOL… I see Gray *still* won’t admit that mothering of infants matters in terms of psychological health. I suppose we’ll agree to disagree, then.”
ME: “Jupiter, get a grip:?Nowhere did I say mothering has no effect! …Kindly refrain from stalking me, ok Jupiter? That’s what you’re doing when in your own answer, you single out other participants by name and attatch your own running commentary”
See? You are projecting your own behavior - onto ME.
Now, I see you still refuse to identify what in my email has made you so histrionic. You refuse to post it, so I WILL. I just found it on a word document I neglected to delete:
“‘I think it is over-compensation on her part.I remember learning in Pysch 101 that Autism was a result of poor Mothering. (A theory since debunked) Maybe she is so afraid of that being true of her Hubby and child that she has tried to be Uber Mom. C.’‘Agreed.?There’s an excellent feminist book called “Perfect Madness” about the state of parenting today and how it’s become a competitive sport.C’‘I agree w/ C about the over-compensation thing. I remember when Jupiter first ?started posting I did really like her repsonses they were always well thought out and backed up by research, but now she attacks those in oppostion to her views in a very ?passive aggressive way. I also believe no matter how one may contest about the joy of being a SAHM that it does make people a little “crazy” and changes the way in which they communicate with other adults; Jupiter is a good example of this. I could just be speaking from my own experience with it though, but I have no problems with admitting that I went a little batty.I also read “Perfect Madness” and am living it here in NYC everyday. I think that Jupiter represents the kind of mentality that perpetuates the “mommy wars” and that is a real ?bummer, maybe I am naive but I would like women/parents to be on the same side when it comes to motherhood/parentho od (whether we have careers or not) because parenting in the 21century is hard.E’‘E: I think you’re absolutely right on all points regarding stay-at-home mothering. I’m not sure why women are terrified to even _admit_ that being stuck at home with kids all day takes a toll on one’s mental health. It’s as though we’re afraid that to say it will mean we don’t unconditionally love our babies anymore, which is of course baloney. Mothers are only human, and many kids realize this as they grow. (The ones who don’t are probably the ones more likely to turn into whiney, demanding, entitled, self-righteous brats.)’”
Shocking, isn’t it?
Get over it and move on with your life. I think you have milked it for all it’s worth. Goodnight.
i agree with joe,except for they might have emailed a certain person that list because they wanted to help a certain person, and then blocked that certain person, as joe said, to prevent confrontation.
I agree with the Jo poster,too.
That was a completely inappropriate action on the emailers’ part.
She should have respected the privacy of all people involved and not constantly insist on proving that she is ‘right’.
I’m sorry you got hurt.
Good luck
Maybe they just figure you’d appreciate to know what people are saying about you. I mean, if people talk about me behind my back, i’d like to know what they’re saying especially since they don’t have to courage to say it to me.
They probably think that it’s in your best interests. I think the “if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it” rule should apply here.
Don’t even bother reading e-mails like that. Delete, block, report.
I’m not sure. Why would a person post a non-Women’s-Studies-related question on the Women’s Studies forum about being e-mailed some ‘gossip’?
This person who emailed the negative comments about you has some sort if issue/grudge against you. This person could be enraged, upset, jealous, envious of you for whatever reason.
For the most part, I really don’t want to know what negative comments are being said about me. Although I am curious (at times) what sort of juicy gossip might be floating (only to see if it is accurate).